Doctors are supposed to bring up weight issues with their patients by asking, "Would it be OK if we talk about your weight?"
Doesn't that make you cringe? While it is so important to talk about weight, I would find it so uncomfortable to ask that question.
Now imagine what it's like to be a pediatrician. You need to bring up a child's extra weight, and you need to talk about it even if the parent in the room also carries extra weight.
I brought up my child's weight in several appointments, and honestly, I wasn't elegant, but at least I did it. Here's what I learned.
I needed an appointment solely to talk about weight. Cramming it into a well-child appointment wasn't possible.
I wish I'd called and said, "I'd like to make an appointment to talk to the doctor about my child's extra weight." Instead, I tripped over myself during the world's longest scheduling call. "I'd like to, my child, um, make an appointment. Because, she's like, great diet, does the low carb baking with the almond flour and the other weird things that are cheaper at Trader Joe's. And I make her exercise all the time, but she's chunked out, but it isn't puberty, because I got my period super late, and my husband was a late bloomer, and she isn't lazy. And it isn't willpower. She has more willpower than the rest of us. Not saying much ha ha ha."
I could hear the poor guy typing and then he asked, "Do you want to make an appointment to talk about puberty?"
Don’t be like me. Simply ask for an appointment “to talk about my child’s extra weight.”
Bringing up weight with your doctor isn't your job, but it could put your doctor at ease and make the appointment more pleasant for all. Your clinician will be able to prepare, and you might get better care.